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Is that a good thing or a bad thing?  In an attempt to keep alive the past – we continue to do them in the present.  But has one noticed that those traditions were based on the life and times of a different era?  Is it possible to keep the good things from the past and change the ones that did not work?  Can you pick and choose what to keep and what not to keep?

But as was pointed out to me – decisions about what should and should not be done is based on society and people.  And often those that are exploited are the ones that are weaker ones.  People are afraid of being shunned or made fun of or being ostracized by society and they will keep silent when things are unpleasant.

Some rituals like shaving the head of a young widow, or not being able to take part in certain ceremonies because you married outside the community or being excommunicated because you got divorced seem like ways of forcing people to follow the rules.  Don’t get divorced otherwise no one will talk to you, even Prince Charles had to deal with that, don’t get married outside the community otherwise you will not be able to enter places of worship or take part in certain rituals and that is bad for the ancestors.  So many ways in which it almost seems like blackmail.

Not that I am against traditions – there is a lot of logic into why certain things are in a certain way – but when you hear that we do it because that is always how it is done and we refuse to change it – then you start to wonder.  I lived in fear of rules – there are so many – I wonder how many other people ever survived with all those rules.  But when there is  a reasoning behind it – love, respect, honor – it makes sense. No?

2 Responses to “Tradition”

  1. Gypsy Girl says:


    First- break all the rules… figure out where you are.. and make new ones for yourself..and keep the old ones that do you some good.

    me guessing its all about living on your own terms. Sometimes following the rules gets you what you want. And at the end of the day the only thing that matters is being happy where you are with who you are and whom you are with! :)

  2. Malini says:

    You know that first part – break all the rules…that is usually the easiest. Everything after that takes some work including living life on your own terms.:)