What do you want?


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Have you noticed these days that all your activities are determined by your children’s social lives?  It is interesting because before today – parents never asked their children what they wanted.  Parents did what they thought was right and the children were not given a say.  If you had to move to another school, city, state or country – you moved.  Nobody asked the children’s permission if that was okay with them.

Nowadays so much is driven by what the children want.  Parents go all out to satisfy their children’s needs.  Sometimes I wonder if it is the parent’s needs itself that is being met and the child is being used as an excuse.  It does not matter if it is about getting up in the morning or what sport they would like to play.

I understand to a certain extent it is about the child doing what they enjoy, but if the child starts to dictate what they want, it becomes a bit much.  How do they know what is good for them, isn’t that what parents are for?  If the kids could make all the choices and knew what is good for them, then parents are redundant.  On the other hand some choices when explained by peers seem to gain more attention than when an adult says it.

Nobody ever said that being a parent was an easy job, but it is hard being the bad cop all the time.  Maybe it is the teenage years where you constantly hear ‘you don’t understand’.  Actually we do understand and that is why you don’t like it right now.  But when you have kids – you will.  But until then – sorry babe, you will just have to listen to your parents.

A jealous mistress

All this time I was trying to figure out what my passion is – it was in front of me.  All the time I was trying to figure out what to do - I was doing it anyway.  All the time I was trying to figure out how to spread the word – I was doing it anyway.  It never came to me until I sat and did some introspection.  I have been doing what I have always loved to do – Dance.  It gives me unparallel joy to dance.  I don’t think I went looking for it, it found me.  No matter what anyone said or did it was absolutely incomprehensible to give it up.

Most people say – learn music, then even when you are old and gray you can still sing.  But for me I feel the same way about dance.  It keeps me young and it is my direct connection to God.  My teacher told me that dance is a jealous mistress. You have to give it your all and nothing can come in the way.  That is a true statement.  Once it is in you, it is like a fever.  There are some of us who just want to learn and dance.  We don’t want an audience or a stage.  We just go in front of the deity and dance.  It gives us such joy to practice and more we hurt and sweat the better it is.

I felt like a ship lost at sea when I thought I did not have a passion.  But I did – I just had to look.

Life is my passion and I express that through the dance.



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Things are beginning to happen. I can sense it – the change has already started. How do I know?

It could be because I have so much I want to do and I am not looking for excuses any more.  I am not afraid any more. I am looking at problems as opportunities to learn and improve and this website is an example.  Scary as heck but the adrenalin that pumps through when you finally get something right and the sense of accomplishment when you see it is absolutely unbelievable.

It kind of explains why once people become an entrepreneur they never ever want to go back to work for someone else.  I think that is where I am now.  I have so many ideas that I want to implement – I cannot wait for anyone to tellme when is the right time.  The right time is now. What happens tomorrow or the next moment depends on the choice you make and the decision you make at this moment.

So CARPE DIEM!! Sieze the Day!

Do you feel what I feel?

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it has been an interesting weekend. Conversations with friends, opinions of people who think they know it all, reactions of those who cannot handle being the center of attention to name a few. So to put it all in perspective I pulled out this piece of writing that I had copied from a poster in an 8th grade classroom and read from that.
I have no idea who wrote it but I think it is very profound and applies to everyone of all ages. Enjoy!

Life is not about keeping score. It is not about how many people call you and it is not about who you’ve dated, are dating or have not dated at all. Its not about who you’ve kissed, what sport you play or which guy or girl likes you. Its not about your hair or shoes or the color of your skin or where you live or go to school. In fact it is not about your grades, money, clothes or colleges that accept you or not. Life isn’t about if you have lots of friends or if you are alone and its not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. In fact Life just isn’t about that.

But Life is about who you love and who you hurt. It is about how you feel about yourself. It is about trust, happiness and compassion. It is about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love. Life is about overcoming ignorance, avoiding jealousy and becoming confident. It is about what you say and what you mean. It is for seeing people for who they are and not for what they have. Most of all it is about choosing your life to touch someone elses’ in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise.

These choices are what Life is about.